Our feelings influence almost every decision we make.Instead of living a boring life，positive feelings can help us a lot.The pity is that sometimes we become victims of feelings.
In one of my latest books，I compare people's ability to controls（控制鍵） on a media player.Just like the controls can help you enjoy wonderful songs，these methods will be choices for you to manage feelings successfully.
1）Pause
Take time to stop and think before you speak or act.Of course，you may feel sorry if you like doing something without thinking—like sending an angry email or posting something bad on social media.If you feel your feelings getting out of control，pause.If possible，go for a short walk.Once you've calmed down，decide how you want to move forward.
2）Volume control
Have you ever noticed that when speaking with someone，your style or tone is a mirror of the other person's？If you stay calm or quiet，they'll follow you.Shout or scream，and they'll do just like you.If a discussion starts to become worse，try to change it by softening your tone or lowering your voice.
3）Record
If you want to learn more about another person's thoughts，recording，one way of careful listening，may help.You don't need to reply at once；instead，you're listening to understand.Through careful listening，it can help you discover misunderstandings you didn't know.Don't judge or offer advice before you know more about others and the topic.
（1）What does the writer compare people's ability to ？
The writer compare people's ability to controls on a media player.
The writer compare people's ability to controls on a media player.
（2）How many ways are mentioned to manage feelings？
There are three ways.
There are three ways.
（3）How may you feel if you like doing something without thinking？
You may feel sorry.
You may feel sorry.
（4）What should you do if a discussion starts to become worse？
You should try to change it by softening your tone or lowering your voice.
You should try to change it by softening your tone or lowering your voice.
（5）Why is careful listening important for you？
Because it can help you discover misunderstandings you didn't know.
Because it can help you discover misunderstandings you didn't know.
