As is well known,saying "no" is difficult.But sometimes we have to learn to say "no".To learn to say "no",we have to first understand what's stopping us about it.Here are some common reasons why people find (C) it hard to say "no".
You may be afraid of being impolite.I was brought up under the idea that saying "no",especially to people who are older,is impolite.This thinking is common in Asian culture,where face- saving is important.It means not making others look bad or lose faces.
You want to help others.You are a kind soul(靈魂) at heart.You don't want to turn the person away and you want to offer help when possible,even if it may take up your time.
You want to be agreeable.At times,you find you are not in agreement.You don't want to keep yourself away from the group,so you agree to do others' requests(請求).
You fear of conflict(沖突).The person might be angry if you refuse him.This might lead to an ugly conflict.Even if there isn't,there might be disagreement which might lead to bad effects(影響)in the future.
You fear of losing opportunities(機會).Sometimes,always saying "no" means that you close the doors of communication and you may lose some opportunities this way.This idea may make you feel worried.For example,one of my friends was asked to work in another department(部門) in her company(公司).Since she liked her team,she didn't want to go.However,she didn't want to say "no" as she felt it would affect her promotion(晉升)opportunities in the future.
(1)What does the underlined word(C) it refer to?
Say "no".
Say "no".
(2)Fill in the blanks according to the text.
It is well known that saying "no" is not ①easy
easy
at all.But sometimes we have to say "no".First,we have to understand what's stopping us ②about
about
saying"no".Saying"no" to old people seems to be③impolite
impolite
in Asian culture.What's more,some opportunities may be ④lost
lost
if you always say"no".
(3)從文中找到與 She didn't feel like going because she loved her team.意思相近的句子。 Since she liked her team,she didn't want to go.
Since she liked her team,she didn't want to go.
(4)Please give your own idea about saying "no" to others. Sometimes it is necessary to say "no" to others.
Sometimes it is necessary to say "no" to others.